TLDR;
Jessica Os discusses five key things women secretly wish men understood about great sex. It's not about performance or physical attributes, but about emotional connection, confidence, and making a woman feel desired and safe. The tips include starting foreplay early, prioritizing confidence over complicated moves, introducing variety, fostering emotional intimacy, and understanding the importance of aftercare.
- Sex starts way before the bedroom.
- Confidence beats performance.
- Women crave variety, not repetition.
- Emotional connection is more important than physical attributes.
- Aftercare is a crucial part of sex.
Introduction [0:00]
Jessica Os introduces the topic of what women secretly wish men knew about great sex, stemming from conversations she's overheard. She clarifies that great sex isn't about performance or "porn level moves," but about how a man makes a woman feel about herself. The video aims to reveal five things women discuss among themselves but rarely tell men, which will distinguish an average lover from an unforgettable one.
Number 1 [1:28]
Sex starts long before the bedroom, with foreplay beginning hours or even days in advance through small gestures and teasing. Women are turned on by feeling wanted and pursued, not by a sudden switch at bedtime that feels like a scheduled event. Common mistakes include bluntly asking for sex, rushing into physical intimacy, and being predictable. Instead, men should focus on teasing her mind through whispers, playful touches, and making her feel seen and desired throughout the day.
Number 2 [3:21]
Confidence is more important than performance in bed. Women are attracted to men who are present and self-assured, not necessarily perfect. Overthinking, hiding insecurity, or being passive are mistakes that kill the mood. Instead, men should lead with intention, read her cues, maintain eye contact, and show they are present. A confident, simple approach is more memorable than complicated moves performed with nervousness.
Number 3 [5:18]
Women crave variety and freshness in their sex lives, not just repetition. Falling into the trap of the same moves at the same time leads to disinterest. Predictability kills passion, as does having only one "gear" or being afraid to experiment. The right approach involves switching rhythms, changing locations, and adding unexpected touches, both physically and verbally. Mystery fuels desire, while routine kills it.
Number 4 [6:57]
Emotional connection turns a woman on more than physical attributes like a six-pack. While men often obsess over the physical, women remember how connected they felt during sex. Emotional safety, feeling valued, and being desired are key. Mistakes include treating sex as a performance, staying emotionally distant, and ignoring her emotions. Instead, men should focus on eye contact, being present, responding to her cues, and making her feel valued both inside and outside the bedroom.
Number 5 [8:37]
Aftercare is a crucial part of sex, not an optional add-on. What a man does in the five minutes after sex determines if she'll want it again. Turning away, going straight to the phone, or offering zero reassurance are mistakes. The right approach involves holding her close, kissing her forehead, stroking her hair, and saying something affirming. Staying present and making small gestures closes the loop and reinforces the emotional connection.