TLDR;
This YouTube video by Ustadzah Halimah Alaydrus discusses how to achieve a tenang (calm) heart by:
- Remembering that Allah controls the universe.
- Staying close to Prophet Muhammad.
- Not comparing yourself to others.
- Increasing your reliance on Allah.
Introduction [0:00]
Ustadzah Halimah Alaydrus opens the session by requesting attendees to refrain from taking photos or videos to maintain the privacy and amanah (trust) of the gathering. She extends prayers for the organizers, leaders, teachers, and all attendees, hoping for blessings, health, forgiveness, and a continued connection to the Prophet Muhammad. The theme of the session revolves around gratitude to Prophet Muhammad, emphasizing that beyond mere happiness, one seeks ketenangan (calmness) as they mature in life.
The Nature of Happiness and Tranquility [5:55]
Ustadzah Halimah explains that happiness is temporary, while tranquility is constant and stable. She shares the story of Prophet Ibrahim seeking reassurance from Allah to calm his heart, highlighting that even prophets seek tranquility. The key to facing life's challenges lies in a tenang heart, which allows one to act and think clearly in any situation.
Tip 1: Remembering Allah's Control [12:13]
The first step to achieving a tenang heart is to remember that Allah controls the universe. Nothing happens outside of His control, whether it's health, wealth, or status. Recalling the hadith about accepting Allah's decree brings peace. The story of Prophet Muhammad during a moment of vulnerability, where an enemy threatened him, illustrates unwavering faith in Allah's protection. Ustadzah Halimah cautions against seeking revenge and instead encourages forgiveness, aligning with Allah's attribute of being Al-Ghaffar (the Oft-Forgiving).
Tip 2: Staying Close to Prophet Muhammad [33:15]
The second tip involves staying close to Prophet Muhammad to receive abundant Rahmat (blessings). Being in gatherings where Prophet Muhammad is remembered brings tranquility. Ustadzah Halimah shares a personal experience of seeking solace in the presence of a pious woman, Hubabah Bahiyah, to alleviate feelings of unease. She emphasizes that associating with those who remember Allah brings peace, while engaging with worldly distractions leads to restlessness.
Tip 3: Avoiding Comparisons with Others [48:15]
Ustadzah Halimah advises against comparing one's life with others, as everyone has their unique struggles and blessings. She stresses that life is not ideal for anyone, including Prophet Muhammad, who faced numerous hardships. Instead, one should appreciate what they have and share it with others. The principle for a happy life is to not seek what is absent, enjoy what is present, and share it with others.
Tip 4: Increasing Reliance on Allah [1:16:44]
The final tip involves increasing reliance on Allah through sincere prayers and entrusting all affairs to Him. Recognizing one's weakness and Allah's strength brings comfort. Ustadzah Halimah encourages surrendering oneself and loved ones to Allah's care, knowing that He is the ultimate protector.
Closing and Prayers [1:22:51]
Ustadzah Halimah concludes by summarizing the four tips for achieving a tenang life. She leads the audience in reciting Suratul Fatihah for those who are ill and for the people of Palestine, praying for peace, justice, and the liberation of Masjidil Aqsa. She also offers prayers for the recently deceased, asking Allah to bless their souls and grant them a place in Jannah.
