Brief Summary
This video is about dating advice for men, focusing on prioritizing personal growth and maintaining a balanced approach to relationships. The speaker uses an analogy of having two phones to represent different types of relationships and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and continuous self-improvement to attract and maintain a woman's interest.
- Prioritize personal growth and grind over relationships.
- Maintain a balanced approach to dating, categorizing women into different levels of priority.
- Build self-confidence and continuously improve to attract women.
Intro: Two Phones Analogy
The speaker introduces the concept of having two phones to explain his dating strategy. One phone is a "regular phone" that he doesn't care much about, while the other is his "main phone" where he invests more time and attention. This analogy is used to represent different types of relationships with women.
Dating Game: Categorizing Women
The speaker explains that in the dating game, women can be categorized into two types, similar to the two phones. The first type is like the "regular phone," where the speaker is okay with limitations and doesn't invest much emotionally. The second type is like the "main phone," where the speaker is more invested and willing to show her off on social media and involve her in his life.
The Goal: Being Liked More
The speaker emphasizes that the goal in dating is to make the other person like you more than you like them. This is because the person who likes the other more is more likely to get hurt and risk everything. He explains that women are often attracted to men who don't seem too eager or available.
Prioritizing Grind Over Women
The speaker advises men to focus on their "grind" or personal goals first and put women second. He explains that women are attracted to what men are doing and the relationships they have with their community. He uses his own community as an example, stating that women are attracted to the bond and respect he shares with his supporters.
Avoiding Beta Behavior
The speaker warns against putting a girl first and neglecting personal goals, as this can lead to being seen as a "beta." He explains that when a man prioritizes a woman over his grind, she may start to put herself before his goals, which is unattractive.
Understanding the Game
The speaker reiterates the importance of understanding the dating game and ensuring that the woman likes you more than you like her. He explains that it's never an even playing field and that someone will always like the other more. The person who initiates contact more often is usually the one who likes the other more.
Being Mysterious and Improving Your Image
The speaker advises men to be mysterious and focus on their grind, whether it's school or a side hustle like TikTok. He stresses the importance of improving one's image, including having a decent social media profile with good pictures. He shares his personal experience of deleting old pictures and reinventing himself to attract more women.
Dating Up and Building Confidence
The speaker emphasizes that no one wants to "date down" and that men should strive to be higher than the other guys who want her. He explains that this requires hard work, grinding, and self-improvement. He stresses the importance of inner confidence and not relying on external validation.
Building Confidence Through Wins
The speaker explains that building confidence comes from getting wins and improving oneself. He shares a personal story of meeting a girl in the mall and having a positive interaction, which boosted his confidence. He emphasizes that it's about the way you carry yourself and your confidence.
Day One Supporters and No Shortcuts
The speaker reflects on his journey and appreciates his "day one" supporters who have seen him grow from recording videos in his mom's house with low-quality equipment to his current success. He emphasizes that there are no shortcuts to success and that it requires consistent effort and dedication.
The Simple Game: Grind and Attraction
The speaker summarizes the dating game as simple: get up and grind, and more girls will be attracted to you. However, he warns against being weird or unattractive, as this can negate any success. He reiterates the importance of not liking someone more than they like you and avoiding attachment.
Improving Every Day
The speaker concludes by emphasizing the importance of improving every day, both on and off camera. He encourages viewers to hit the like button if they enjoyed the video and to check out his Patreon for more exclusive content. He also promotes his merch, which he says is designed to fit well and enhance one's physique.
