TLDR;
This video breaks down the five stages through which a woman starts falling in love, highlighting common points where connections break down. It emphasizes that attraction isn't just about looks but also about energetic alignment, compatibility, safety (emotional, financial), and infatuation. The video also touches upon the importance of self-worth and addressing subconscious patterns to build sustainable relationships.
- Physical and Energetic Attraction are initial filters.
- Compatibility and Safety are crucial for long-term connection.
- Infatuation deepens with alignment and safety.
- Addressing subconscious patterns is key to breaking negative relationship cycles.
Introduction [0:00]
The video starts by highlighting the frustration of not understanding attraction, leading to wasted time and confusion. It ain't just about rejection, but about not knowing why someone pulled away. The core idea is that instability or unsafety in a man can push a woman away. The video aims to break down the five stages of how a woman falls in love, with stages three to five being the most critical points where connections often fail.
Stage 1: Physical Attraction [1:02]
The first stage is all about physical attraction, but it's not just about being the most handsome bloke. It's about how you carry yourself, your posture, and the way you speak. Energetic attraction also plays a big role. Women pick up on this. This stage answers the question, "Am I pulled towards him?" But it's just the first hurdle, not a guarantee of love.
Stage 2: Energetic Attraction [1:52]
Energetic attraction is about how a man carries himself. Is he fidgety, nervous, or lacking confidence? Women can sense nervousness and pick up on a man's emotional state through mirror neurons. If a man seems unsafe or ungrounded, this stage can become shaky. Even if you're pretending to be cool, she can still feel the anxiety.
Stage 3: Compatibility Scanning [2:48]
Once attraction is established, women start scanning for compatibility. This includes spiritual beliefs, life goals, values, and where you want to live. It's also about how you treat other people. She's checking if your lives align and if you're on the same page about the big stuff.
Stage 4: Safety [3:18]
Safety is where many connections break down. Women unconsciously scan if they feel safe in your presence. This includes emotional and financial safety. A secure man isn't scared of losing a woman, which is attractive. She's also looking for responsibility and the ability to provide, especially if she wants a family. The video acknowledges that some relationships start when a man has nothing, but this is more common in younger years. As women get older, they tend to look for more stability.
Stage 5: Infatuation [5:38]
Infatuation is when a woman starts imagining a life with you – marriage, kids, daily life. This deepens when attraction, safety, and alignment are already in place. Commitment can't be forced; it comes naturally when these elements are present. Men and women go through these stages, but in a different order. Men lead with attraction, while women prioritize safety and alignment.
Why Attraction Fails [6:44]
Attraction usually fails in stages three, four, and five, not stage one. If she wasn't initially attracted, she wouldn't be talking to you in the first place. The issue is that something in the middle stages isn't stabilizing, making her feel unsafe. This is often due to a lack of self-worth and unresolved subconscious patterns. Men might respond by chasing more, but this only pushes her away.
Breaking the Cycle [9:00]
The video emphasizes that until you break negative patterns, you'll keep repeating them. These patterns often stem from a lack of self-worth and inner beliefs. Constant rejection can affect your self-concept and confidence. If you don't fix these patterns, you'll continue to suffer. You need to become the man who is worthy of attracting the relationship you want.
Subconscious Rewiring [11:11]
Your worth is inherent, but you need to realize it. Subconscious rewiring and healing work can help you see your own worth and change your self-perception. This naturally affects your dating life and your ability to attract women. Intellectually understanding the patterns isn't enough; they live in your nervous system and subconscious. The subconscious (95%) will always win over the conscious mind (5%). You need to train your nervous system to hold a secure relationship.
