Your Teen Doesn’t Listen to You? Try THIS Approach (Backed by Research)

Brief Summary

This video emphasizes the importance of building strong connections with teenagers to improve communication and influence. It highlights how teens often tune out parents who primarily offer criticism and correction. The key is to prioritize "connection before correction" by engaging in activities teens enjoy, having casual conversations, and creating positive interactions.

Prioritize connection before correction to foster open communication.
Engage in activities your teens enjoy to show genuine interest.
Create positive interactions through small surprises, celebrating wins, and using humor.

Intro

Many parents feel their advice and guidance are ignored by their teenagers, leading to frustration. This often happens because teens associate their parents with constant criticism. To solve this, parents should focus on building a connection with their teens outside of conflict. By investing in the relationship, parents' words will carry more weight and be better received.

Strategy 1

The first strategy involves spending time together doing things your teens enjoy. Instead of trying to force bonding on your terms, meet them where they are. Engage in their interests, whether it's playing basketball, trying a new game, or watching a show together. Even if they initially decline, showing interest in their world demonstrates that you care about them as individuals, not just their actions. This simple act of curiosity can significantly improve your relationship.

Strategy 2

The second strategy focuses on having casual, pressure-free conversations with your teens. Not every conversation needs to be a lecture or a life lesson. Instead, talk about random, lighthearted topics such as trending dances on social media, movies they plan to watch, or their favorite music. These low-pressure interactions make it easier for your teen to open up and want to talk to you.

Strategy 3

The third strategy involves intentionally creating positive interactions with your teens. Surprise them with small things they enjoy, like their favorite snack or a gift related to their hobby. Celebrate their wins, even the small ones, and acknowledge their progress. Use humor by sharing funny memes, jokes, or stories. The more positive experiences your teens associate with you, the more likely they are to want to communicate with you.