TLDR;
The video discusses the importance of men pursuing a mission or purpose in life to attract women, rather than directly chasing them. It emphasizes that women are more drawn to men who are focused, driven, and have something bigger than themselves to strive for. The speaker shares personal experiences and observations, highlighting how a man's dedication to his goals creates an attractive aura of confidence, nonchalance, and vitality.
- Women are naturally attracted to men who are dedicated to a mission or purpose.
- Chasing a mission leads to self-improvement, discipline, and an attractive "it factor."
- Men on a mission often find women qualifying themselves to be a part of their world.
- Prioritizing a mission helps maintain respect and prevents being caught in a woman's frame.
- Solid women will submit to and support a man's mission, adding value to his life.
Introduction: The Shift from Chasing Women to Chasing a Mission [0:00]
The speaker reflects on his younger years and how he never felt the need to chase women, finding the idea of using pickup lines corny. He realized that women started gravitating towards him when he began focusing on self-improvement, pursuing aesthetics, and starting businesses in college. Getting in shape demonstrated initiative and seriousness, which attracted more women.
The Core Principle: Women Chase Men on a Mission [1:38]
The speaker asserts that women are more likely to chase a man who is dedicated to his mission. A mission is defined as a purpose or something bigger than oneself, such as starting a business or improving oneself. When a man is focused on his goals, he becomes nonchalant and less concerned with rejection, which paradoxically makes him more attractive.
The Attractive Qualities of a Man on a Mission [3:52]
When a man is deeply involved in his mission, he exudes a burning desire to conquer life, which attracts women. He is not giving them the constant attention they are used to, making him stand out from other men who are merely chasing women. This nonchalant attitude and focus on a greater purpose create a unique swagger that cannot be faked.
The Impact of a Mission on Self-Improvement and Discipline [6:05]
Focusing on a mission leads to self-improvement in various aspects of life. Men on a mission are more likely to get up early, maintain their physical appearance, and eat right because they understand the importance of these factors in achieving their goals. Motivation is replaced by discipline and execution, driving them forward.
The Testing Phase and Detracting Women [6:12]
Women will often test a man's commitment to his mission, attempting to pull him away from his goals. Staying firm and prioritizing the mission only increases their attraction. Additionally, being on a mission can deter women who are not ready for that level of dedication, as they may find it intimidating or feel the need to "find themselves."
The Importance of a Woman Submitting to the Mission [7:17]
The best partner is one who submits to and supports a man's mission, allowing him to focus on his work. Women who constantly detract from the mission are not a good fit and will often seek validation elsewhere. Eventually, some may return, claiming to have "found themselves," but the key is to remain focused on the mission.
The Power of Principles Over Tactics [10:54]
Women are drawn to men who are building worlds for themselves, offering a world they can enter. If a woman constantly clashes with a man's mission and tries to pull him into her chaotic world, it is a sign to leave. The speaker emphasizes the importance of principles over tactics, urging men to be visionaries who are attacking something larger than life.
The Consequences of Abandoning the Mission in a Relationship [12:39]
In long-term relationships, falling off the mission can lead to disrespect and a shift in the dynamic. When a man stops improving and pursuing his goals, he becomes less attractive, and his partner may start testing him more frequently. Sacrificing the mission for a woman can result in a loss of respect and increased conflict.
The Abundance Mentality and the 1% Man [13:55]
There are millions of women who will submit to a man's mission, but there are not many solid men who have a mission, treat women right, and remain disciplined. Men should not be afraid to let go of women who detract from their goals, as there are plenty of others who will support their ambitions. By embodying these qualities, a man can position himself in the top 1%.
Conclusion: The "It Factor" and the Visionary Frame [14:25]
The speaker reiterates that having a mission is essential for attracting women and maintaining a fulfilling life. It gives a man an "it factor" and a visionary frame that makes him irresistible. By prioritizing the mission and embodying principles, men can naturally attract women who are drawn to their energy, vitality, and dedication.