TLDR;
Margarita Nazarenko shares 20 practical tips for women to cultivate respect, desire, and prioritization from men by embodying feminine energy and high self-value. These tips include maintaining composure, setting boundaries, mirroring effort, and prioritizing personal well-being. The goal is to encourage women to focus on their own value and happiness, thereby naturally attracting positive attention and investment from men.
- Remain calm and composed in the face of emotional tests.
- Value yourself and your time by saying no to last-minute plans.
- Focus on personal growth and autonomy to increase attraction.
Introduction [0:00]
Margarita introduces a podcast episode recorded in her car while her son is asleep. She outlines the topic: 20 practical tips for women to create respect, desire, and prioritization from men by embodying feminine habits that make them deeply valued.
Remain Calm [0:44]
To cultivate respect and desire, it's important to remain calm when a man tries to provoke an emotional reaction. Men often test boundaries to gauge your emotional response, which they perceive as a sign of importance. React emotionally to positive actions and remain neutral to negative ones to reinforce desired behaviors.
Say No to Last-Minute Plans [1:47]
Declining last-minute plans communicates that you have a full and valuable life. Scarcity increases value, teaching him that he needs to fit into your schedule. Being constantly available can lead to being perceived as boring, regardless of his initial affection.
Respond, Don't React [2:28]
Responding thoughtfully, rather than reacting impulsively, showcases emotional regulation, which is attractive. This fosters trust and deeper intimacy, allowing a man to bond with you by seeing you as a reliable teammate.
Mirror His Effort, Not His Words [3:29]
Match a man's actions rather than being swayed by his words. Avoid over-functioning out of anxiety by mirroring his level of effort and prioritization in the relationship.
Keep Your Life Full and Nourishing Without Him [4:08]
Maintaining autonomy and a fulfilling life independent of him increases attraction. Self-expansion theory suggests people are drawn to those with their own growth and desires.
Don't Sleep With Him Until There's Emotional Safety [4:35]
Delaying gratification increases your value. Men often meet only the necessary standards to achieve their goals. Requiring emotional investment before intimacy encourages him to work for your affection.
Praise Him When He Shows Up as a Man [5:22]
Positive reinforcement is more effective than criticism. Men crave respect and appreciation, which are rare in the outside world. Providing this can make you the master of his heart.
Keep a Little Mystery [5:48]
Dopamine thrives on anticipation. Avoid oversharing and maintain an air of mystery. Feminine energy is alluring, and things left unsaid can be more intriguing.
Don't Chase, Let Him Come to You [6:14]
Polarity is essential in relationships. The masculine energy wants to pursue, while the feminine energy should allow itself to be chased. Backing up encourages him to take the lead.
Detach From Outcomes and Focus on How You Feel Around Him [6:36]
Instead of obsessing over the future of the relationship, focus on how he makes you feel in the present. If he brings you joy, continue; if not, move on. Men can sense when a woman is overly planning the relationship.
Hold Boundaries With Kindness [7:03]
Clear boundaries signal self-respect. Enforce your values calmly, as research shows people admire and trust those who do so. Avoid aggression, as sustainable boundaries are maintained with kindness.
If He Goes Cold, Don't Try to Reignite the Flame; Go Colder [7:31]
Mirror his behavior. If he withdraws, pull back as well. Chasing after emotional unavailability reinforces that behavior. Pulling back forces him to reassess the situation.
Don't Over-Explain Yourself [8:11]
Excessive explanation stems from anxiety and a need to be understood. A confident woman doesn't need everyone's approval. Avoiding over-explanation adds to your mystery.
Value Yourself First, Even in Micro Moments [8:33]
Small acts of self-abandonment add up. Show a man you value yourself through your tone, posture, and decisions. Prioritize your needs, even in minor situations.
Speak in Desires, Not in Demands [9:06]
Express your desires in a way that appeals to his protector and provider instincts. Avoid making demands or acting like his mother.
Say "I'll Think About It" When Unsure, Not "Yes" to Be Liked [9:21]
When offered something, don't immediately agree. Saying "I'll think about it" communicates that your time is valuable and that you carefully consider your commitments.
Be Warm, Not Eager [9:48]
Warmth is feminine, while eagerness can indicate anxious attachment. Subtle enthusiasm is more appealing than excessive excitement.
Give Him Space for Him to Miss You [10:09]
Absence increases emotional presence for men. Men process emotions slower and often feel the impact after you withdraw.
Stay in Feminine Even When Triggered [10:37]
Femininity is power under control, not weakness. Maintain grace even when stressed. Express emotions without being reactive.
Walk Away If You're Not Being Treated Right [10:56]
Walking away from mistreatment signals your value. Removing yourself from a negative situation communicates that you are the prize.
Conclusion [11:11]
Margarita summarizes the 20 principles for embodying feminine energy and prioritizing self-value. She emphasizes that these tips are designed to decenter men and focus on personal well-being.
