TLDR;
The YouTube video features a discussion between IP International Passport and Mr. Garbens about experiences in South Korea, particularly focusing on the interactions with South Korean women. Garbens shares his positive experiences of being cold approached by women, while IP recounts his negative experiences and feelings of not being embraced in the country. The conversation covers topics such as beauty standards, feminism, cultural differences, and the potential for finding meaningful relationships in South Korea.
- Garbens had positive experiences with South Korean women approaching him.
- IP International Passport had negative experiences and felt unaccepted.
- The discussion covers beauty standards, feminism, and cultural differences.
Intro and Guest Introduction [0:00]
IP International Passport introduces the live stream and his guest, Mr. Garbens, who recently spent a month in South Korea. IP mentions upcoming teaching engagements in Q4 2025 and encourages viewers to book tickets for Fio's conference and register for the Python course. He also promotes his Patreon for exclusive content and encourages viewers to support the stream through super chats.
Garbens' Initial Interest in South Korea [2:10]
Garbens explains that he became interested in South Korean culture after watching the K-drama "Penthouse War in Life" and wanting to learn more about the culture. This led him to explore Korean restaurants in Montreal and eventually travel to South Korea to experience the authentic food and interact with Korean women.
Contrasting Experiences in South Korea [3:40]
IP shares that his trip to South Korea was a negative experience, as he felt he did not receive any attention or interest from the women there. In contrast, Garbens had positive experiences, including being cold approached by South Korean women. IP expresses his frustration and seeks to understand why their experiences were so different.
Cold Approaches by Korean Women [5:02]
Garbens describes three instances where he was approached by South Korean women: once on the street, once at a bus stop, and once at Han River. In each case, the women initiated the conversation, expressing curiosity about where he was from. He notes that such approaches are not very common in South Korea, where small talk is less prevalent.
Reasons for Garbens' Positive Interactions [7:52]
Garbens speculates that his positive interactions may have been due to his energy, clothing style, or skin tone, as he received compliments on these aspects. He also mentions a Korean woman he spoke with on Zoom who complimented his skin.
IP's Frustration and Garbens' Approach Tips [10:06]
IP expresses disbelief at Garbens' experiences, contrasting them with his own feelings of being ignored in South Korea. Garbens suggests that Korean women like when guys approach them and recommends using their language to form a bond. He shares that he told women he was a YouTuber doing vlogs about Korean culture, which piqued their interest.
Korean Women's Preferences and Black Men [11:51]
Garbens states that South Korean women do check for black men in Seoul, although they may not know much about black people due to the limited number of black individuals in the country. He mentions knowing a black man who met his Korean girlfriend at the gym.
Looks and Personality of Korean Women [15:06]
Garbens finds South Korean women very beautiful, even those who have had plastic surgery. He describes them as very nice, sharing an anecdote about a Korean woman who bought gifts for him and his mother.
Feminism in South Korea [17:22]
Garbens notes that while feminism is growing in South Korea, it is not as strong as in the US or Canada. He mentions some Korean women wanting to stay single and focus on their careers due to the high cost of living and long working hours.
General Personality and Helpfulness [18:41]
Garbens says that Korean women are generally sweet and kind, and he was never ignored when approaching them. He adds that Koreans like to help foreigners, making it a good approach to start a conversation.
Living in South Korea and Relationships [19:52]
Garbens says he could see himself living in South Korea and being with a Korean woman, as he felt at home there. He shares an experience of an owner of a fried chicken restaurant hugging him, which is not common in Korea.
IP's Negative Perceptions and White Worship [22:13]
IP reiterates his negative experiences and questions if he went to South Korea at the wrong time or if it's just him. He feels Korean people didn't want him there, citing weird looks and mugging. He suggests South Korea is a white-worshipping country, a point Garbens agrees with, noting the prevalence of white skin images in advertising.
Observations in Nightlife and Western Influence [25:10]
IP shares observations from nightlife, noting Korean women showing interest in white men over non-white men. He also saw many Western women with Korean men. Garbens confirms seeing many Koreans with white people. IP feels South Korea is becoming too Americanized.
Finding a Wife and Career Focus [29:20]
Garbens believes it's possible to find a good Korean woman for a committed relationship but notes Korean women focus on their careers first. IP expresses disinterest in career-focused women, preferring those who prioritize relationships.
Dating Advice and Openness to Foreigners [31:31]
Garbens suggests that if you want a Korean woman, it's not impossible to find one in South Korea. He recommends targeting Korean women who have visited other countries, as they are more likely to be open to dating Western men. He also shares that Korean women are very committed to a guy they really want.
Impressions of Busan Women [34:03]
Garbens describes women in Busan as less focused on beauty standards and more laid-back compared to those in Seoul. He prefers Busan women because they seem less stressed.
Historical Context and Generational Differences [36:38]
A comment from a viewer stationed in South Korea in 2003-2004 shares that Korean women were not interested in black men at that time. Garbens suggests that times have changed, and younger Korean women are more open to dating foreigners.
Younger Korean Women and Age Gaps [40:25]
Garbens believes that younger Korean women (22-25) are more hip to black culture and open to talking to black men. However, he doesn't think a 23-year-old Korean woman would date a 35-year-old black man, which IP sees as a symptom of Westernization.
Garbens' YouTube Channel [44:08]
Garbens promotes his YouTube channel, which features food reviews, interviews with Koreans, and vlogs about his experiences in South Korea.
Meeting a Korean Woman and Food Preferences [45:22]
Garbens shares that he met a 22-year-old Korean woman at a subway station and filmed a video with her trying raw beef and raw egg. He admits the taste was just okay. IP emphasizes the importance of enjoying a partner's culture and cuisine.
Listener Questions and Dating Advice [48:35]
The hosts address listener questions and offer dating advice. Garbens recommends using language exchange apps like Tandem to connect with Koreans. IP shares that he doesn't feel he can do South Korea again due to his negative experiences.
Garbens' Experience with a Korean Woman [55:00]
Garbens recounts how he cold approached a woman in a subway station, and she agreed to eat with him the following week. She even paid for one of their meals. Garbens' Korean friend told him that the woman likely liked him because she paid for him.
Boyfriend Disclosure and Relationship Expectations [1:01:56]
Garbens reveals that the woman he went out with mentioned having a boyfriend, which surprised him. IP discusses how some Asian women have guy friends and feel it's okay to have dinner with them, which he doesn't agree with.
Future Plans and Cultural Observations [1:05:48]
Garbens shares that he is speaking with other Koreans on a language app and has a woman waiting for him to return to South Korea. IP emphasizes the importance of black men being established in their careers to attract Asian women.
Diverse Perspectives and Cultural Shifts [1:09:44]
The hosts discuss the importance of finding Korean women with different perspectives and personalities. They also touch on the increasing Westernization of South Korean culture.
Call-in Guest: Experiences in South Korea and Malaysia [1:23:50]
A call-in guest shares his experiences in South Korea and Malaysia. He found South Korea to be expensive and conservative, with no jaywalking and conservatively dressed women. He didn't see black men with Korean women. In Malaysia, he notes that cold approaching women is generally not well-received.
Polygamy and Submissiveness in Malaysia [1:32:52]
The guest shares that polygamy is common in Malaysia, with age gaps of around 10 years. However, women are not very submissive. He also notes that Chinese women are Westernizing Malaysian culture.
Black YouTuber in South Korea [1:36:57]
Garbens mentions a black YouTuber who has been living in South Korea for 15 years and suggests IP should interview him.
Rumble Crash Out and Sensitive Topics [1:38:35]
The hosts announce they will be moving to Rumble to discuss more sensitive topics, including a comment about half-dressed women in Japan. They encourage viewers to join them on Rumble.