TLDR;
This video outlines ten specific behaviors that can indicate whether a woman you're dating sees you as a priority or just an option. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns early on to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being. The signs range from excessive comfort with physical intimacy to a lack of emotional depth and an unwillingness to integrate you into her social life.
- Recognizing these signs early can save you from investing in a relationship where you are not a priority.
- The behaviors discussed are based on psychological patterns and can help you make informed decisions about your relationships.
- Taking action based on these observations is crucial to avoid wasting time and emotional energy on someone who is not genuinely invested in you.
Sign 1: Excessive Comfort with Physical Intimacy [1:41]
If a woman displays a high level of comfort with physical intimacy early on, without any nervousness or shyness, it may indicate repeated experience and a lack of genuine emotional connection. This behavior suggests a rehearsed performance rather than a vulnerable, authentic interaction. It's important to differentiate this from mere self-confidence; the key is the absence of typical nervousness associated with new intimate encounters.
Sign 2: Avoiding Emotional Depth [2:36]
A woman who consistently avoids deep conversations about feelings, the future, or emotional connections may be separating the physical from the emotional. She might be seeking validation and entertainment without wanting to make any commitments. Observe how she responds when you try to learn about her fears, dreams, family, and past; vague answers or deflections indicate she doesn't want you to truly know her, as that would imply a deeper, more serious connection.
Sign 3: Canceling Plans Frequently or Keeping Everything Flexible [3:37]
Frequent cancellations or a reluctance to commit to definite plans suggests she's keeping her options open. This behavior indicates you are a backup plan rather than a priority. A woman genuinely interested in building a relationship will make time for you and prioritize seeing you, rarely canceling unless it's a true emergency.
Sign 4: Constantly Comparing You to Other Men from Her Past [4:27]
If she frequently talks about her exes or other men with nostalgia and in detail, constantly comparing you to them, it suggests an extensive history and a tendency to view men as interchangeable. This indicates that you are not seen as special but rather as the current option until someone else comes along. A woman with a healthy past may occasionally mention an ex in context, but constant comparisons are a red flag.
Sign 5: Protecting Her Phone as if it Were a State Secret [5:22]
Overprotective behavior regarding her phone, such as keeping it face down, never leaving it unattended, and getting flustered if you touch it, suggests she's hiding something. This is different from healthy privacy, which is about personal space. Hiding involves nervous behavior and disproportionate reactions, indicating the phone contains secrets like dating app conversations or chats with other men that would reveal you're not the only one.
Sign 6: Not Integrating You into Her Social Life [6:12]
If you've been dating for weeks or months and haven't met her friends or family, or attended any social events with her, it suggests she's keeping you a secret. This could be because there are other men in her life, she doesn't see you as serious, or her social circle knows about behaviors she'd rather you didn't know. A woman who sees you as a partner will naturally integrate you into her life.
Sign 7: Her Social Circle is Predominantly Male [7:16]
A social circle consisting mainly of male friends, with frequent one-on-one outings, can be a sign of promiscuous tendencies. If she dismisses your discomfort as insecurity and her male friends are constantly vying for her attention, it suggests she's constantly seeking validation from men. Observe her body language with these friends to gauge the nature of these relationships.
Sign 8: Seeking Constant Validation from Multiple Sources [8:15]
Constant posting on social media, provocative photos, responding to every comment from men, and needing to be told she's attractive multiple times a day indicate a need for constant validation. This stems from an identity built on male attention and an internal void that can never be filled. No matter how much attention you give her, it will never be enough.
Sign 9: Her Body Language with Other Men Crosses Boundaries [9:06]
Observe how she interacts with other men in public. If she engages in unnecessary physical contact, flirts, or gives them her undivided attention, it suggests she's used to using her sexuality to get attention and can't turn it off. A woman who respects you respects boundaries, even when she thinks you're not looking.
Sign 10: Extremely Short or Non-Existent Relationship History [9:59]
A history of short relationships, a preference for keeping things fluid, or a lack of any real relationships suggests an inability or unwillingness to commit. This pattern indicates that the odds of her changing her behavior for you are very low. The reason for this pattern matters less than the pattern itself.
Understanding the Patterns and Taking Action [10:46]
These patterns often stem from deep insecurity, unresolved trauma, an inability to form emotional bonds, or a preference for novelty over commitment. It's not your job to fix her, but to decide if this is the kind of person you want to build something with. If multiple signs are present, the answer should be no. Don't ignore the obvious, set your standards, have a direct conversation about your observations and needs, and act on the information you receive. If she confirms she's not looking for something serious, believe her and move on. Don't waste time hoping she'll change.
