TLDR;
This YouTube video by Coach Kareem discusses the importance of setting the right goals and avoiding common pitfalls that lead to a lack of progress. The video emphasizes the need for a clear plan, a realistic timeline, and challenging yet achievable objectives. It also touches on the irrelevance of personal attacks and the significance of self-assessment based on measurable data rather than subjective feelings.
- Setting goals without a plan is just wishful thinking.
- Goals should be challenging and push you out of your comfort zone.
- Self-assessment should be based on measurable data, not subjective feelings.
Intro [0:00]
Coach Kareem greets his audience and mentions a discussion about the "alpha gene" trend on Twitter. He dismisses the idea of a specific gene determining alpha traits, challenging anyone promoting this to provide scientific evidence, such as the name of the gene and credible research. He contrasts this with legitimate genetic markers like the G1 gene associated with Semitic ancestry or genes related to predisposition to diabetes or Parkinson's disease, which are supported by scientific research and data.
Addressing Payment Issues [18:27]
Coach Kareem addresses issues with Visa and Mastercard payments for his services, explaining that the payment gateway is undergoing upgrades, causing disruptions. He suggests alternative payment methods like PayPal and cryptocurrency (specifically USDT) and offers assistance through relatives or friends in other countries who can make payments on behalf of those facing restrictions. He also mentions exploring other payment solutions but notes the challenges in the Arab world due to geographical restrictions.
Why Your Goals Are Wrong: Introduction [22:57]
Coach Kareem introduces the main topic: why people's goals are often wrong. He identifies two common mistakes: setting goals without a plan or timeline and setting goals that are too easy. He references a previous episode about dreams and goals, promising to expand on these points and explain why many people fail to make tangible progress.
Mistake 1: Setting Goals Without a Plan [23:39]
The first mistake is setting a goal without a concrete plan, timeline, or measurable metrics. Coach Kareem emphasizes that such a goal remains a mere wish or dream. He uses the analogy of wanting to visit a castle but not planning the route or mode of transportation. He stresses the importance of answering "how" and "when" to make the goal achievable. Citing studies in organizational psychology, he notes that actionable goals require specific details. Goals should be clear and measurable, unlike vague aspirations such as "I want to lose weight" without specifying the target weight or timeline.
Mistake 1: Clear and Measurable Goals [34:01]
Coach Kareem stresses that goals must be clear and measurable, providing examples of weight loss and business projects. He criticizes vague statements like "I feel like I've lost weight" and emphasizes the need for precise measurements using a digital scale. For business projects, he highlights the importance of calculating all costs, including shipping, customs, and marketing, to determine the final selling price and profit margin. He warns against relying on luck and emphasizes the need to account for all variables.
Mistake 1: Over-Enthusiasm Without Realistic Thinking [39:24]
Coach Kareem discusses the pitfall of over-enthusiasm without realistic planning. He notes that many people set ambitious goals without a roadmap, leading to initial excitement followed by disappointment when they don't see immediate progress. He uses the example of someone starting a gym routine with intense motivation but quickly losing interest due to soreness and lack of visible results. He stresses the importance of consistency and realistic expectations.
Mistake 1: Neglecting to Break Down Goals [46:10]
Coach Kareem emphasizes the importance of breaking down large goals into smaller, manageable steps. He provides examples of weight loss and financial goals, illustrating how dividing a large target into smaller sub-targets with specific timelines makes the overall goal more achievable and less overwhelming. He cites research indicating that breaking down goals increases the chances of success and reduces stress.
Mistake 1: Losing a Sense of Responsibility [52:02]
Coach Kareem explains that without a timeline, it's easy to procrastinate and lose a sense of responsibility towards achieving the goal. He uses the example of someone repeatedly postponing going to the gym, highlighting how the absence of a deadline makes it easier to delay action. He emphasizes that self-accountability stems from having clear deadlines, which motivates individuals to stay committed.
Mistake 1: Lack of Progress Measurement [56:20]
Coach Kareem discusses the importance of having metrics to measure progress, emphasizing that without them, the goal feels like an illusion. He uses the analogy of driving without a GPS, stressing the need for feedback to adjust efforts and stay on track. He explains that dividing a large goal into smaller sub-goals with timelines allows for easier tracking and adjustments.
Mistake 2: Setting Goals That Are Too Easy [59:17]
Coach Kareem transitions to the second common mistake: setting goals that are too easy. He criticizes people who are content with minimal achievements, such as losing a small amount of weight when they need to lose much more or being satisfied with a low-paying job when they could earn significantly more. He emphasizes that goals should be challenging and push individuals out of their comfort zones.
Mistake 2: Measuring Yourself in Society [1:04:16]
Coach Kareem discusses the importance of setting challenging goals and measuring oneself against societal standards. He uses examples of physical fitness and intelligence, emphasizing the need to compare oneself to others in the field to gauge progress accurately. He explains how to determine one's IQ and compare it to the national average using online tools and ChatGPT. He stresses the importance of self-assessment based on data rather than relying on opinions.
Mistake 2: Self-Assessment and Personal Value [1:09:20]
Coach Kareem emphasizes the importance of knowing one's own value and not being swayed by others' opinions. He encourages regular self-assessment through metrics like testosterone levels (for men), personality traits, and IQ. He shares examples of individuals improving their testosterone levels naturally, debunking the myth that it is solely determined by genetics. He stresses that self-awareness and continuous improvement are essential.
Mistake 2: False Satisfaction and Continuous Improvement [1:15:21]
Coach Kareem discusses the issue of false satisfaction with easy goals, explaining that while they provide a temporary dopamine boost, they don't offer genuine fulfillment. He emphasizes that the mind needs continuous challenges for development and that individuals should constantly seek to improve. He uses the analogy of video game levels, stressing the need to increase difficulty as one becomes proficient.
Mistake 2: Personal Growth and Comfort Zone [1:20:12]
Coach Kareem explains that easy goals don't push individuals out of their comfort zone, hindering personal growth. He cites studies in neuroscience indicating that growth occurs when the mind and body are pushed beyond their natural limits. He references David Goggins and Andrew Huberman's work on the prefrontal cortex, emphasizing that willpower grows by doing things one dislikes.
Mistake 2: Frustration and Lack of Motivation [1:22:20]
Coach Kareem discusses the frustration that arises from a lack of progress when setting easy goals. He emphasizes the need to see the impact of one's achievements and to compare oneself to others in the field. He explains that while comparing oneself to one's past self is useful initially, it's essential to compare oneself to others to gauge progress accurately.
Mistake 2: Long-Term Motivation and Minimum Effort [1:24:51]
Coach Kareem explains that easy goals kill long-term motivation because they lead to a mindset of seeking the minimum effort. He uses the example of a student aiming only for the passing grade, contrasting it with those who strive for excellence. He emphasizes that setting challenging goals builds a mindset of continuous improvement.
Conclusion [1:27:09]
Coach Kareem summarizes the key points, stating that life owes you nothing and that a big goal without a plan is just a dream, while easy goals are a slow form of self-sabotage. He urges viewers to re-evaluate their priorities and set goals that scare them, as significant achievements require significant effort. He concludes by emphasizing the importance of having a plan that makes every day a battle worth fighting.
Real Estate Investment Opportunity [1:30:24]
Coach Kareem promotes a real estate investment opportunity in a project near the new capital city in Amman, Jordan. He highlights the affordable land prices and the potential for long-term investment. He provides information on how Jordanians and other nationalities can purchase land, including the process for obtaining security clearance for non-Jordanians. He encourages interested individuals to contact him via email for more information.
Final Remarks and Gratitude [1:36:01]
Coach Kareem thanks his audience for watching and acknowledges those who support the channel through Super Chat, Super Stickers, and cryptocurrency donations. He encourages viewers to explore the projects on his Telegram channel and to reach out via email for inquiries. He concludes by expressing gratitude and wishing everyone a good night.
