Finding Your Purpose, Solved

TLDR;

This episode of the Solve Podcast explores the concept of purpose, its philosophical and psychological underpinnings, and practical ways to find and cultivate it in one's life. It challenges common myths about purpose, discusses its potential downsides, and provides tools for listeners to increase their sense of meaning and fulfillment.

• Purpose is a psychological need, not an option.
• Modern life exacerbates existential vacuums.
• Finding purpose requires action, contribution, and significance.
• Purpose is dynamic and evolves throughout life.
• There are real costs and side effects to purpose.

Introduction [0:00]

Mark expresses his excitement for this episode, emphasizing that purpose has been a central theme throughout his career. He notes that while purpose is a popular topic today, it's also a necessary one.

Victor Frankl and Finding Purpose in the Darkness [1:39]

Victor Frankl is presented as a key figure in popularizing the concept of purpose, shifting it from primarily religious or philosophical to a mainstream concern. Frankl, a psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, developed logo therapy, a therapeutic approach centered on finding meaning in life. His experiences in concentration camps led him to believe that the will to meaning is a primary driver for human survival, more so than pleasure or power. Those who lost their sense of purpose were less likely to survive, regardless of their physical condition. Frankl's philosophy emphasizes inherent freedom and responsibility, even in the face of suffering, and the importance of finding meaning in one's suffering. He also identified the "existential vacuum," a sense of emptiness that arises from a lack of purpose, which often precedes personal growth.

Chapter 1: Foundations: What Is Purpose? [17:19]

Purpose is defined as having three key components: direction, action, and contribution/personal significance. Direction involves a longer-term mindset and orientation, while action emphasizes the active verb tense of purpose, requiring engagement and doing. The significance component involves contributing to something beyond oneself, adding personal importance. Purpose is not necessarily found but built or discovered through action.

Myths [25:44]

Several myths about purpose are debunked, including the idea that there is only one big purpose in life, that a lack of a clearly defined purpose means one is behind, and that finding one's purpose will fix everything. It's emphasized that purpose is dynamic, changes over the lifespan, and that suffering is still inevitable even with a strong sense of purpose. Another myth addressed is that one's job has to be their purpose, highlighting that purpose can be found in various areas of life.

Definition [32:50]

A working definition of purpose is presented: a dynamic, values-aligned, other-impacting life aim that organizes your goals and actions across time. This definition encompasses the changing nature of purpose, its connection to personal values, its contribution to others, and its role in creating a coherent life narrative.

Health [34:55]

Having a clear sense of purpose is linked to various health benefits, including longer life, better sleep, and healthier behaviors. Purpose influences health behaviors by making health part of a larger mission. Biologically, purpose lowers systematic inflammation and better regulates cortisol rhythms.

Resilience and Purpose [39:22]

A strong sense of purpose strengthens resilience by reinforcing a reappraisal loop, allowing individuals to reframe struggles with their purpose in mind. Purpose provides a framework for dealing with life's chaos and facilitates cognitive reappraisal.

Chapter 2: Philosophical & Historical Perspectives on Purpose [45:34]

The philosophical history of purpose is explored, starting with Aristotle's concept of "telos," the ultimate aim or end of something. Aristotle believed every living creature has an ultimate aim, and humans are meant to strive towards some good. This idea influenced the Stoics and Eastern philosophies, which focused on returning to one's true nature. The discussion moves to the concept of "means and ends," where means are conditional actions taken to achieve an end. Philosophers sought the "end in itself," the ultimate aim or purpose.

Religion and Purpose [52:47]

Christianity adopted the idea of an ultimate aim, stating that God chose that purpose for individuals. This section highlights the circular reasoning in both ancient philosophies and early Christianity, where living a good life means living virtuously, but living virtuously requires living a good life.

Descartes [58:31]

Enlightenment philosophers began to question this circularity. Descartes argued that it is impossible to read God's will into nature, and Spinoza pointed out that many purposes are just reflections of personal desires.

Hume [1:00:11]

Hume further challenged the idea of predetermined purpose with his "is-ought fallacy," stating that one cannot derive a moral "should" from a factual "is." This means that just because something is a certain way doesn't mean it ought to be that way, undermining the notion of a knowable, predetermined purpose.

Nietzsche [1:04:51]

Nietzsche declared "God is dead," arguing that the Enlightenment and rationality had removed God as the organizing principle of life. He believed this loss would create a problem, requiring people to create their own meaning and purpose. Nietzsche's philosophy emphasizes self-overcoming and the re-evaluation of values, encouraging individuals to decide their own moral code and purpose. He warned that without a clear moral framework, society would invent new religions and sources of purpose, potentially leading to political radicalism.

Kierkegaard [1:17:43]

Kierkegaard, another founder of existentialism, observed that if Christianity is true, it demands complete commitment. He argued that if there is no predetermined purpose, whatever purpose one chooses must be pursued with absolute dedication, a "leap of faith."

Ernest Becker [1:22:50]

Ernest Becker, influenced by Nietzsche and Kierkegaard, argued in "The Denial of Death" that humans are primarily motivated by a fear of death. He proposed that people create "immortality projects," finding meaning in things that will outlive them, such as family, art, or careers.

Picasso [1:30:16]

Picasso's quote is shared: "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away."

Recap [1:30:40]

The three elements of significance are summarized: being naturally inclined or positioned to do something, being willing to struggle or sacrifice for it, and contributing to something greater than oneself.

Chapter 3: The Psychology of Purpose [1:31:26]

The modern psychological research on purpose is explored, starting with the brain. Neuroscience shows that individuals with a stronger sense of purpose have stronger connectivity between reward pathways and long-term planning areas in the brain. This creates a future-oriented mindset and enhances motivation.

Relationships [1:36:38]

Having a clear purpose leads to better cognitive functions, as it reduces cognitive load and improves focus. Purpose acts as a mental organizing schema, filtering out distractions. It also enhances creativity, engagement, and productivity.

Ego Identity [1:45:45]

Purpose contributes to a healthier ego and a more coherent identity. It aligns one's natural talents with contributions to others, satisfying both individual and social needs.

Social Aspect of Purpose [1:49:19]

Purpose is linked to social connection, making individuals more social and empathetic. Finding purpose can be infectious, drawing people together and fostering a sense of community.

Religiosity [1:52:32]

Religious individuals often report a higher sense of purpose, as religion provides social cohesion, control, and a provision for meaning. Religions often meet the criteria for significance: a sense of uniqueness, a call to sacrifice, and a promise of immortality.

Going back to Religion [2:05:14]

The discussion touches on the idea of a secular religion and the importance of being asked to sacrifice for something. It's suggested that modern society's emphasis on convenience and instant gratification may be undermining people's sense of purpose.

Chapter 4: The Four Stages of Life [2:08:13]

The four stages of life are described: mimicry, self-discovery, commitment, and legacy. Mimicry involves learning by imitating others, with the purpose of social approval. Self-discovery is a phase of exploration and identity formation. Commitment involves dedicating oneself to a greater cause, and legacy focuses on ensuring that one's contributions will endure.

Trade off to Purpose [2:19:41]

Transitioning between stages is often difficult, involving a loss of purpose and a need to re-evaluate one's life.

Transitioning in Purpose [2:23:48]

The importance of supporting exploration and encouraging individuals to pay attention to what is worth sacrificing for is emphasized.

Chapter 5: The Dark Side of Purpose [2:31:33]

The dark side of purpose is explored, including burnout and toxic purpose. Burnout occurs when individuals overinvest in their purpose, neglecting other areas of their lives. Toxic purpose involves using other people as a means to an end, as seen in political extremism and unethical behavior.

Purpose App [2:40:38]

Mark announces the launch of Purpose, an app designed to help people find their purpose. The app uses AI to personalize advice and challenge users to align their actions with their values.

Burnout [2:51:36]

The importance of diversifying sources of purpose to avoid burnout is emphasized.

Toxic Purpose [2:54:29]

Toxic purpose is further defined as inflexible, undiversified, and lacking in human-centeredness. It involves using others as a means to an end and can manifest in various forms, including political and religious extremism.

Chapter 6: Finding and Cultivating Purpose [3:07:25]

Five strategies for cultivating purpose are presented: fostering curiosity, treating life as an experiment, connecting with more people, integrating past struggles, and pursuing difficult things.

Breakdown on finding Purpose [3:27:04]

It's emphasized that finding purpose is not about achieving a specific outcome but about the process of growth and learning.

Chapter 7: Finding Purpose in Work (or Not) [3:36:56]

The different orientations one can take toward work are discussed: job, career, and calling. It's noted that not everyone needs to find their ultimate purpose in their job and that a job can provide the foundations for other purposes in life.

Parenting [3:52:55]

The role of parenting as a source of purpose is explored, along with the potential for burnout and the importance of maintaining a diversified sense of self.

Contributing to your community [4:01:00]

The importance of service and social contribution within one's community is highlighted.

Hobbies [4:04:05]

The role of hobbies and leisure activities in providing purpose is discussed, with an emphasis on the importance of social connection and the pursuit of excellence.

Chapter 8: Practical Tools and Frameworks [4:09:14]

Practical tools and frameworks for finding purpose are presented, including assessments, the Ikigai framework, the Wheel of Life, and purpose statements.

Purpose Setting [4:20:18]

The concept of purpose setting is introduced, which involves setting goals and then asking "why" to uncover the underlying purpose.

Finding the right tool [4:22:17]

It's noted that different tools may be more effective for different personalities, with autonomy-driven individuals benefiting from open-ended reflections and competence-oriented individuals benefiting from structured frameworks.

Chapter 9: The 80/20 of Living with Purpose [4:24:48]

The 80/20 of living with purpose is summarized as following one's curiosity, getting it down on paper, taking action, and setting boundaries.

Takeaways [4:34:24]

The episode concludes with a reminder that purpose is a moving target and that the key is to continuously ask oneself what contribution they want to make and what kind of person they want to be.