TLDR;
This video provides five key techniques for older men to attract and maintain the interest of younger women. It emphasizes the importance of projecting certainty, avoiding excessive compliments, demonstrating authority, integrating her into your world without condescension, and maintaining a masculine role. The video aims to help older men understand and leverage their unique advantages in dating younger women, while avoiding common pitfalls that can lead to rejection or loss of interest.
- Project certainty to provide leadership and confidence.
- Avoid excessive compliments to maintain intrigue and avoid appearing approval-seeking.
- Demonstrate authority through cold reading and understanding her world.
- Integrate her into your world by sharing your interests and knowledge without condescension.
- Maintain a masculine role to create chemistry and fulfill her fantasy of an older man.
The Attitude of Certainty [1:03]
Certainty is crucial for older men dating younger women. Women desire a man who is sure of himself and his decisions, providing a sense of leadership and direction. This certainty involves a firm conviction that she would be attracted to you, eliminating self-doubt and the need for constant reassurance. Unlike the needy older guy who seeks validation and is plagued by insecurity, the certain man exudes confidence, making her feel secure and attracted. Projecting certainty involves taking charge, such as confidently asking for her number or planning dates without seeking her input, which conveys assurance and leadership.
Avoid Giving Approval Too Soon [5:39]
Older men should avoid showering younger women with compliments early on, as it can diminish their interest. Instead, focus on being genuinely curious and validating her by listening attentively and asking questions about what she says. This approach positions you as someone who is screening her, making her work for your approval, which is more intriguing than the constant validation she may be used to. Avoid gushing over her social media to maintain a sense of distance and mystery.
Demonstrate Authority with Cold Reading [8:07]
Demonstrating authority involves using cold reading techniques to show that you understand her world and can offer unique insights. One method is to bait her into complimenting you by suggesting she has a good intuition about people and asking for her impression of you. Another approach is to make a general observation about her, such as her self-motivation, and then use it as an opportunity to compliment her while also playfully pushing her away to maintain tension. This technique can also address her potential concerns about what others might think of her dating an older man, reinforcing her independence and confidence in her decisions.
Bring Her Into Your World [12:00]
Instead of trying to fit into her world, introduce her to your interests and knowledge without being condescending or lecturing. Sharing your passions, such as going to the gun range or explaining financial concepts, can provide her with new experiences and make her feel like a grown-up. Avoid giving her money, as it can create a transactional dynamic, but teaching her about money and other topics can be attractive. Sharing your understanding of the world, including politics, can also be appealing, as it positions you as a protector and someone who can offer guidance.
Have Power Over Yourself [15:07]
Having power over yourself is essential for attracting and maintaining a younger woman's interest. The person who cares less has more power, so avoid being overly attached to the outcome. This means controlling your behavior and not changing it out of fear of losing her. Avoid being too available, tolerating bad behavior, or deviating from your established routines and goals. Maintaining control over yourself and your priorities is more attractive than constantly seeking her approval or changing your behavior to please her.
Stay Firmly in the Masculine Role [18:33]
Maintaining a masculine role is crucial for creating chemistry and fulfilling a younger woman's fantasy of an older man. Avoid acting weak or feminine, and instead, take the lead in the relationship. This involves making decisions, providing support, and taking charge in various situations. By staying firmly in the masculine role, you create a dynamic that is both attractive and fulfilling for her.