TLDR;
This video is about things that Deandra does that make her feel more feminine. She clarifies that femininity is an energy and a divine right, not a stereotype. She shares tips like not being a man-hater, using discernment, dressing confidently, balancing chasing and attracting, letting actions speak louder than words, watching your tongue, being kind, and loving your female body.
- Femininity is an energy, not a stereotype.
- Actions speak louder than words.
- Kindness and self-care are key.
Introduction: Understanding Femininity [0:00]
Deandra introduces the topic of femininity, clarifying that it's about energy and not fitting into stereotypes like being a housewife. Being feminine is a female's divine right, something innate that no one can take away. She emphasizes that connecting with feminine energy is a choice, often hindered by societal pressures that distract women from enjoying and leaning into this energy. The video aims to explore what makes her feel more feminine, moving beyond superficial aspects like skirts and lipstick.
Avoiding Man-Hating [2:30]
Deandra talks about why she avoids man-hating, pointing out that it's become a trendy thing. As a straight woman, she questions how she can hate the gender she ultimately wants to be with. She believes in the law of attraction, stating that hating men will only attract non-serving men. She stresses the importance of acknowledging good men exist and that women should raise their standards and block those who offer the bare minimum. By doing so, women can change how men show up in relationships, requiring them to act accordingly to gain access to great women.
Using Discernment [5:01]
Deandra explains the importance of using discernment to protect feminine energy. She says that humans have the ability to read energy and understand things, but often don't use it when engaging with others. Engaging in relationships with people who aren't energetically aligned can deplete your feminine energy, making you feel hard and angry. She advises using discernment to choose who to engage with, conserving energy by not wasting it on those determined to misunderstand you. This doesn't mean cutting people off, but respecting yourself enough not to engage in unproductive interactions.
Dressing for Confidence [7:00]
Deandra shares that dressing in a way that makes her feel confident is key to feeling more feminine. This means not relying on trends or mimicking others, but evaluating what truly makes you feel good. Confidence shouldn't come from external validation, like seeking attention through revealing clothing. She differentiates between feeling sexy within yourself and dressing sexy for attention, advocating for dressing in a way that aligns with your inner confidence.
Balancing Chasing and Attracting [8:38]
Deandra discusses finding a balance between chasing and attracting things in life. She used to use masculine energy to chase everything, which can take you out of your femininity. Femininity is about attracting and being. She gives an example of being at a bar and attracting someone by being your best self versus chasing attention and looking "thirsty." Chasing might get you what you want, but it might not be what you need. She advises stepping back, working on yourself, and asking if you're truly aligned with what you're chasing.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words [11:34]
Deandra emphasizes that actions are more powerful than words. If someone crosses a boundary despite you telling them it hurts, they're not seeing your actions align with your words. She advises against telling people how to treat you and instead showing them through your actions. Examples include not responding to bare minimum energy, stepping back when someone encroaches on your space, and leaving disrespectful situations. She also uses the example of dressing appropriately for a job interview to show how actions influence how people treat you.
Watching Your Tongue [14:33]
Deandra highlights the importance of watching your tongue, as everything you say is a spell that can manifest in your life. Speaking positively about yourself and your life leads to positive outcomes, while negative self-talk reinforces negative beliefs. She also touches on swearing, noting that while it's not inherently unfeminine, excessive cursing doesn't align with feminine energy. She encourages filtering your words and avoiding blurting out everything that comes to mind, as the power of the tongue is significant.
Being Kind to People [16:30]
Deandra stresses the importance of being kind to people, both online and offline. There's no reason to be rude or engage in online hate. She encourages extending the same love you give yourself to others and making a conscious effort to compliment people. She also emphasizes empathy, reminding viewers that you never know what someone else is experiencing. Even in anger, consider whether the person you're directing your anger towards is the right recipient.
Loving Female Bodies [18:12]
Deandra concludes by affirming that all female bodies are feminine, regardless of shape or size. She encourages viewers to understand that their bodies are feminine simply because they are female. While she's not against surgery if it makes you happy, she emphasizes doing it for yourself and from a place of fulfillment, not insecurity. She advocates for normalizing that every body is different and still feminine, and encourages taking good care of your body by watching what you put into it and treating it like a temple.