TLDR;
This video explains how to impress a woman by making her feel like she needs to win you over, rather than the other way around. It highlights the common mistake men make of trying too hard to impress women, which often leads to the woman feeling like she has more value in the interaction. The key is to let her sense that she hasn't fully won you over yet, which piques her interest and makes her want to impress you.
- Men often try too hard to impress women, leading to a power imbalance.
- Women want to feel like they are "trading up" when they get with a man.
- Letting a woman sense she hasn't fully won you over piques her interest.
- Playful teasing and suggestive comments can create attraction.
- Confidence and social intelligence are key to making a woman want to impress you.
Introduction: The Common Mistake Men Make [0:00]
Many men, when attracted to a woman, try to impress her by being overly complimentary, agreeable, or by boasting about their achievements. This approach often backfires because it signals that the man is seeking the woman's validation or approval. As a result, the woman perceives herself as having more value in the dynamic, which is unattractive. Women want to feel like they are "trading up" when they get with a man, meaning they see him as better or more valuable than her in some way.
Why Women Lose Interest When Men Try Too Hard [3:04]
Attractive women are used to men being immediately impressed by them. They can sense when a man is "sold" on them. To stand out, a man needs to let a woman sense that she hasn't fully won him over yet. Most men fail to do this because they are too eager to show their interest and excitement. This piques her interest and makes her wonder why he isn't as easily won over as other men.
How to Make Her Feel Like She Needs to Win You Over [5:21]
You can make a woman feel like she needs to win you over through your reactions, energy, and interest level. Men who are naturally good with women often give off the vibe that they aren't fully won over yet, which makes the woman feel like she has to put in effort to impress him. Avoid nervously seeking her approval or asking questions that reveal your eagerness. Instead, maintain an energy that shows you are still evaluating her.
Playful Examples of What to Say [7:18]
Women want to feel like they need to turn on their charm and be more impressive to win you over. Here are some examples of playful things you can say: "Alright, I'll admit it, you just earned a few extra points with me there," "Interesting, now I'm starting to like you a bit," or "Okay, I didn't expect that from you, you've just become slightly more interesting." These comments let her know that you are evaluating her and that she still has some work to do.
The Power of Playful Teasing [9:11]
Playful teasing is a display of confidence and social intelligence that women find attractive. Studies show that women interpret teasing as flirting rather than criticism. It also allows her to feel girly and feminine in comparison to you, as you have the courage to put a bit of playful pressure on her. This can be sexually stimulating for her.
More Examples and the Importance of Flirting [10:32]
More examples of what to say include: "I like you a little bit more now, you're starting to grow on me." Remember to let her sense that she hasn't fully won you over yet. Women make you sense that you haven't fully won them over, which gives them power. Flirting is a playful way of showing interest without being overly committal.
Intrigue and the Shift in Dynamic [16:14]
Saying "Alright, now I'm intrigued by you, keep going" is impressive because most guys are easily won over. This makes her feel like she needs to fully win you over, shifting the dynamic so she is the one trying to impress you. She will want to show you her warm, loving side and prove that she is a lovable woman.
The Contrast: Needy vs. Confident [17:06]
A man who feels powerless will try to impress a woman by wearing the best clothes, talking about his achievements, and giving her constant compliments. This comes across as needy and signals that he needs her approval to feel good enough. In contrast, a confident man who uses the methods described in the video will find it easy to attract women and make them want to impress him. This dynamic continues in relationships, where the woman continues to want to win more of your love.