Brief Summary
This YouTube video features a Q&A session where a pastor addresses various questions about relationships, marriage, and spiritual discernment. Key topics include navigating polygamous family situations, discerning the right partner, dealing with parental objections, overcoming past mistakes, and understanding spiritual maturity. The session also includes a prophetic moment where the pastor ministers to a young man, offering insight and financial assistance.
- Guidance on handling complex family situations like polygamy.
- Advice on discerning genuine intentions in relationships and marriages.
- Emphasis on the importance of spiritual maturity and purity.
- Prophetic ministry and financial assistance offered to a young man.
Polygamous Family Situation
A man seeks advice on how to handle his involvement in a polygamous family, as his mother is the second wife. He is troubled by comments about polygamy and wants to resolve the issue biblically. The pastor advises him to focus on his own deliverance and to never enter polygamy himself. He suggests that the man should not try to interfere with his parents' long-standing relationship, but rather ensure his own actions align with God's way.
Dating and Parental Approval
A man asks what to do when his girlfriend is afraid to meet his parents, particularly his father who is a military man, even though her own parents are aware of and approve of the relationship. The pastor advises that this fear is a red flag. If she has no ulterior motives, she should be eager to meet his family. He stresses the importance of involving both sets of parents and the pastor in the relationship for guidance and blessing.
Discerning the Right Person in Church
A question is posed about how Christians can discern genuine partners in a church setting, given the prevalence of deception and broken marriages. The pastor acknowledges the difficulty and recommends his books on the will of God, maturity (domestic, spiritual, diverse), and singles mingling. These resources aim to provide understanding and prevent deception in relationships.
Engagement and Family Objections
Several short questions are addressed:
- A man's fiancée asked him to wait after he surprised her with a ring. The pastor simply repeats, "Wait first."
- Someone asks if they can marry a prostitute.
- A man asks what to do when his future in-laws object to the marriage due to his career. The pastor advises him to prove them wrong through his actions and care, and to listen to their concerns without dismissing them outright. He notes that career issues can indeed impact a marriage.
Past Mistakes and Moving Forward
- A person asks if they can continue a relationship after having sex, if both partners are ready to stop. The pastor says they can continue if both are committed to stopping.
- A man seeks advice about his girlfriend, who is a former lesbian, and her past still hurts her. The pastor advises him to let go of the past and embrace the new person she is in Christ. He emphasises the importance of maintaining purity and focusing on the present.
Relationship Challenges and Parental Influence
- A man from Cameroon asks about marrying a girl from Abuja whose parents want her to further her education. The pastor advises him to allow her to be educated, as it is beneficial for both partners to be on the same intellectual level.
- Someone from Zimbabwe asks if it is permissible for a Christian to marry a non-Christian. The pastor answers with a firm "no," citing the biblical principle of not being unequally yoked.
Spiritual Maturity and Pride
A man asks if he can marry a woman who claims to be more spiritually mature than him. The pastor advises against it, stating that such a claim indicates spiritual pride, which is detrimental to a relationship. He explains that spiritual pride is the worst kind of pride and makes it difficult to advise or reason with the person. He uses biblical examples to illustrate the difference between humility and spiritual pride.
Oaths, Family Involvement, and Proposals
- A man who made a childhood oath with a girl, who is now married, asks what to do. The pastor tells him to move on, as the oath is broken since she married someone else.
- A man asks about a lady who refuses to introduce him to her family. The pastor advises that it is essential to meet her family before considering marriage, as her reluctance suggests she is hiding something.
- A question is raised about a girl who "proposes" marriage. The pastor clarifies that it is the man who should make the proposal, as this aligns with the biblical order.
Multiple Relationships and Commission Boundaries
- A man who has been dating two girls and has had sex with both asks what to do after deciding to end one relationship. The pastor advises him to end one relationship, acknowledging the repercussions of his actions.
- A man asks if he can choose a partner from a different commission if he is not satisfied with the ladies in his own. The pastor says it is acceptable to find love outside one's commission, but one should not condemn their own commission because of it.
Success, Polygamous Backgrounds, and Broken Oaths
- A man asks if it is right to be in a relationship before achieving life goals. The pastor says success is relative and one does not need to be fully successful before entering a relationship, but should be actively working towards something.
- A man from a polygamous home asks if he can marry a girl from a similar background without perpetuating polygamy. The pastor says it is possible but advises avoiding it if possible due to the spiritual battles involved.
- A man asks about a childhood oath he made with a girl who is now married. The pastor reiterates that he should move on, as the oath is no longer valid.
Worship and Prophetic Ministry
The session transitions into a time of worship, during which the pastor shares a prophetic word about people receiving prophetic giftings, energetic encounters, and divine interventions in their lives. He emphasises that God will remove struggles and obstacles in various aspects of their lives during worship.
Prophetic Word and Callings
The pastor calls out individuals for prayer and prophetic ministry. He identifies a young man named Moses from Anthony, River State, and speaks about a power fighting his education and a limit that needs to be broken. He reveals details about past academic setbacks and family issues, including the death of Moses' grandmother and the financial struggles related to her burial.
Financial Assistance and Prophetic Anointing
The pastor releases a prophetic anointing over Moses, breaking barriers and limitations. He then identifies another individual named Emmanuel, stating that there is a calling on his life and that God is about to globalise him. He speaks of a prophetic anointing within Emmanuel that is about to spring up.
Health, Future, and Family Revelations
The pastor ministers to Emmanuel, addressing his health, future, and family background. He reveals a blood-related health issue contracted from a girl in Benin, a future travel opportunity to Germany with a visa, and the tragic death of Emmanuel's sister, who was killed for ritualistic purposes. He offers financial assistance to help Emmanuel start his own business.
Gratitude and Closing
The pastor expresses gratitude and declares that struggles are over. The session concludes with a sense of hope and divine intervention in the lives of those who received ministry.
