TLDR;
The guest describes a long-running conflict with a former friend and fellow actress, rooted in repeated disagreements, public criticism and a loss of trust. She explains the background to a viral incident, recalls ways she supported her friend’s career, and says she does not expect them to reconcile. The conversation then turns to her role as a Special Assistant to the Governor on Entertainment and Culture, her family’s roots in Osun State and why she supports the governor.
- The viral confrontation reflected tensions that had built up over several years.
- The guest says she helped her former friend find acting opportunities but later felt that friend dismissed her achievements and undermined her.
- She rejects the friend’s apology as insincere and sees little chance of repairing the relationship.
- She remains in her government appointment and describes her family’s longstanding connections in Osun State.
The Viral Incident and Years of Tension [0:20]
The guest agrees that the incident in which her former friend did not want to be photographed with her was embarrassing. She says she did not know they were being filmed and would not have reacted the same way if she had known the moment would be shared publicly. Her response, she explains, came after repeated attacks and tensions that had accumulated over time.
She traces some of the conflict to her 2020 book launch, where she performed a one-person show and played several roles, including a doctor, a prostitute and a man. A costume from the performance went viral, prompting online criticism that she dressed badly. She says her former friend joined in, questioning why she had dressed like a pastor. The guest tried to explain that it was a costume, but felt that social media users were unwilling to listen.
She also recalls an earlier disagreement after she posted a photograph of them together. While she was rehearsing and away from her phone, her friend called several times and then sent her abusive direct messages, apparently believing the photograph made her look bad. When they later attended the same event, the friend reportedly told people with cameras not to film them together, saying they were not friends. The guest says this was part of a pattern of behaviour that made her feel repeatedly provoked.
A Rejected Apology and a Broken Friendship [4:08]
The guest says she did not accept her former friend’s later apology because she believed it was motivated by public relations rather than genuine remorse. In her view, the friend had apologised for similar behaviour before, and the same kind of conflict kept recurring. She also claims that her friend would act in ways that upset her at events, then socialise with mutual friends in the film industry.
She describes herself as less socially outgoing than her former friend, whom she sees as skilled at building connections. The guest believes that this difference sometimes contributed to her feeling excluded or targeted. She gives examples of what she saw as a lack of support: she sent her friend the design for a costly new building, but received no congratulations, and later had to remind her that she had sent an invitation to the housewarming.
The guest also recalls an occasion when her friend spoke with a man who wanted her contact details and said he would have to pay through his nose to get them. She felt this was inappropriate, particularly because she was not in a position to take care of herself at the time and heard the man expressing serious interest. These experiences contributed to her belief that the apology was not genuine. Asked whether they might reconcile, she says she does not think so and that some friendships have to be let go.
Supporting Her Former Friend’s Acting Career [5:59]
The guest says she and her former friend had known each other since they were young. When the friend was struggling to find acting roles, the guest wrote stories with parts designed for her and gave her lead roles in films. She says marketers sometimes questioned why she cast her friend, criticising her appearance, but she believed in her abilities and did not want to judge or discriminate against her.
She describes her former friend as having a distinctive, masculine-leaning style and an individual way of speaking. In the guest’s view, her friend later changed her image to appeal to a wider audience, which she considers a reasonable choice. However, she objects to what she sees as the friend using her social standing or changing public image to put her down.
The guest says she has struggled to understand why her friend seemed unhappy about her achievements. She recalls sharing the building’s design with her first, yet receiving little response, and says her friend sometimes left dismissive comments under social media posts celebrating her. She also remembers being encouraged to visit the home of an emerging musician, but says her own more conservative nature made her reluctant to go.
The End of the Friendship and Differing Lifestyles [12:24]
The guest says she does not expect reconciliation, describing a deeper difference in how the two women approached fame and social life. At an event in Abuja, she felt her former friend saw them as people who were “at the top” and connected to influential circles. The guest says she does not live that way and prefers to keep to herself. She adds that much of what upset her happened away from cameras, while the dismissive moment that became public showed only part of the history.
She interprets the filmed incident as bringing an underlying problem into view, saying she felt that her instincts or destiny had pushed the moment into public view. She believes her former friend may adjust her behaviour, but says the underlying issue remains. The conversation acknowledges that friendships can become complicated and that some have to end.
The guest briefly makes a sharp personal remark about her former friend’s appearance, suggesting that jealousy might be involved, but she presents this as her own speculation rather than a confirmed reason for the conflict.
Her Government Appointment and Family Background [14:38]
The guest confirms that she still serves as Special Assistant to the Governor on Entertainment and Culture. She says she was happy when the governor was re-elected because she supports him and believes in his leadership. Her connection to Osun State is also personal: her mother is from the state, and the family has a long history there.
She explains that her maternal grandfather was a national chairman of an association connected to transport and tourism. He operated vehicles and organised air travel for people making pilgrimages to Saudi Arabia. The guest says the family is well known in Osun State, and that her grandfather’s home is close to the governor’s office in Abeere. She believes the governor knows the family and trusted her enough to appoint her to his team.
