TLDR;
This video discusses the concept of loyalty in relationships, asserting that women are primarily loyal to the fantasy they hold in their minds about their partner. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding and aligning with this fantasy to maintain a strong connection. He also touches on the need for men to embody the characteristics of that fantasy, continuously improve themselves, and be aware of a woman's desires and expectations. Additionally, the video highlights the significance of shared future visions and the role of empathy in understanding women.
- Women are loyal to the fantasy they have of you, not necessarily to you as a person.
- Men need to understand and align with a woman's fantasy to maintain loyalty and connection.
- Self-improvement and embodying the characteristics of the fantasy are crucial.
- Shared future visions and empathy are important for long-term compatibility.
The Fantasy of a Woman [0:00]
A woman's loyalty is tied to the fantasy she has in her mind, not necessarily to the man himself. This fantasy is a mental movie of who the man is or could be, based on what she's looking for. It's crucial for a man to fulfill that fantasy to a certain extent, aligning with her imagination and desires. Every woman has a different, future-paced fantasy, ranging from a rich man to a dominant "bad boy" or even extreme sexual scenarios.
Understanding Women's Fantasies [1:56]
To understand a woman's fantasies, one must ask questions about what she wants and observe her reactions to certain topics. Women often get emotionally invested through detailed books and imagination, unlike men who rely on visual stimulation. Some women fantasize about a man being a good father and caretaker, which men should work towards if they are serious about a long-term relationship.
Loyalty and the Fantasy [3:45]
A woman's loyalty is to the fantasy she holds, and if a man fits into that fantasy, she will be loyal to him. The speaker shares a personal anecdote where he questioned his girlfriend about her fantasy of him and what would happen if he stopped embodying those traits. Her reaction highlighted that her loyalty was to the fantasy, not him as an individual.
Maintaining the Fantasy [5:34]
Men need to consistently improve themselves to enhance the fantasy and ensure they remain within it. Many men struggle because they don't fit the woman's fantasy, leading her to fantasize about other characters or men. It's important to embody the man she initially fantasized about when she chose you, focusing on intangible qualities rather than just money.
Aligning Fantasies and Trajectories [8:16]
To maintain a long-term connection, it's important to understand a woman's fantasy and ensure it aligns with your own trajectory. This involves asking questions about her ideal future and connecting the dots to see if her vision fits with your goals. If her fantasy and your goals are misaligned, the relationship may drift apart over time.
Being Empathetic and Understanding [11:05]
It's crucial to understand that women are loyal to their fantasies, and if you're in that fantasy, they will be loyal to you. While nothing lasts forever, it's important to enjoy the moment and focus on the present. Men should avoid being overly controlling and instead focus on being the best version of themselves. Empathy and emotional intelligence are essential for understanding women and maintaining a strong relationship.
The Truth About Men's Desires [13:28]
Men often try to act like they don't care about women's opinions, but they do. The speaker admits he initially got in shape to impress women and continues to stay in shape to remain attractive. There's nothing wrong with wanting to understand women better; it's a sign of being genuine.