TLDR;
In this sermon, Rev. Dr. Albert Agbi discusses marriage by God's design, emphasizing the importance of knowledge and understanding of God's original intent for marriage. He references Matthew 19:3-6, highlighting Jesus's emphasis on the creation of male and female and the principle of oneness. The sermon addresses common issues in relationships, such as lack of knowledge, differing expectations, and selfishness, and offers guidance on building a successful, God-centered marriage.
- Knowledge and understanding of God's design are crucial for successful marriage.
- Differences between partners should be respected and seen as complementary rather than competitive.
- Selflessness, sacrifice, and submission to God are essential for a kingdom marriage.
Introduction: Marriage by God's Design [0:00]
Rev. Dr. Albert Agbi introduces the theme of marriage by God's design, drawing from Matthew 19:3-6 where the Pharisees test Jesus about divorce. He points out that Jesus redirects them to the original design of marriage, emphasizing the importance of understanding God's initial intent rather than focusing on problems like divorce. The core message is that many marriage problems arise from a lack of knowledge and a departure from God's original design.
The Importance of Reading and Knowledge [0:57]
The speaker stresses the importance of being well-read and informed before entering into marriage. Just as Jesus expected the Pharisees to know the scriptures, individuals should seek knowledge about marriage. He argues that passion alone is insufficient and that a lack of understanding of God's design leads to problems. He connects the lack of knowledge to various areas of life, including academics, relationships, finances, and spirituality, emphasizing that a solid body of knowledge is essential for success in each of these areas.
Understanding God's Original Design [3:51]
The sermon highlights that problems in marriage often stem from a deviation from God's original design, referencing the creation of male and female. He explains that just as a broken microphone deviates from its intended function, marital problems arise when design principles are abused. He stresses that understanding this design is crucial for navigating challenges and building a strong marriage.
Differences Between Male and Female [9:33]
The speaker addresses the differences between men and women, stating that God created them male and female for a reason. He argues that many people seek partners who are too similar to themselves, which can lead to conflict. He emphasizes that differences are meant for completion, not competition, and that understanding and respecting these differences are essential for a successful relationship.
Leaving and Cleaving: The Principles of Separation and Oneness [17:33]
The sermon discusses the principle of leaving one's parents and cleaving to one's spouse, explaining that leaving is not just a geographical act but also a psychological, emotional, and relational one. He identifies things that must be left behind, such as childhood dependencies, unhealthy ties, and individualistic thinking. He emphasizes that cleaving involves becoming one flesh, which requires God's involvement to bind two different surfaces together.
What God Has Joined Together [24:24]
The speaker emphasizes that what God has joined together, humans must not divide. He explains that becoming one requires deaths to selfishness, ego, and independence. He contrasts this with individualistic thinking, where people prioritize their own desires over the needs of the relationship. He concludes that marriage is a covenant for covenant thinkers, where the focus is on strengthening the union rather than individual wants.
The Hardness of Hearts [26:02]
The sermon addresses the hardness of hearts as a reason for marital problems, explaining that stubbornness and an unwillingness to be malleable can spoil relationships. He contrasts this with the need for accommodation and teachability in marriage. He identifies the inability to forgive and the lack of a prayer life as red flags, emphasizing the importance of seeking God's guidance in resolving conflicts.
Three Types of Marriage: Traditional, Contemporary, and Kingdom [31:33]
The speaker identifies three types of marriage: traditional, contemporary, and kingdom. Traditional marriages are based on traditions that vary and change over time. Contemporary marriages are based on modern trends and often favor women. He recommends kingdom marriage, which is based on the principles of the word of God and involves sacrificial love, mutual help, and submission to God.
Kingdom Marriage: A Divine Union [36:59]
The sermon describes kingdom marriage as a divine union centered on Christ, where both partners are sacrificial and submitted to God. He contrasts this with contemporary marriages, where men may be detached and women may seek support from feminist ideologies. He emphasizes that kingdom marriage is not possible outside of God and requires a willingness to die for one's spouse, mirroring Christ's love for the church.
The Disciples' Perspective and the Importance of Reading the Contract [43:31]
The speaker references the disciples' statement that it is better not to marry if such is the case, emphasizing the importance of understanding the realities of marriage before entering into it. He urges listeners to "read the contract" by seeking knowledge, having conversations with parents, and praying for discernment. He concludes by encouraging listeners to take marriage seriously and enter into it with intention and understanding.
Final Thoughts and Prayer [48:57]
In closing, Rev. Dr. Albert Agbi encourages the audience to talk to their parents about marriage and to recognize potential territorial demons that may affect their relationships. He stresses the importance of prayer and reflection, urging young people to take marriage seriously and not enter into it casually. He concludes with a prayer for mercy, wisdom, and guidance for all those seeking to build successful, God-centered marriages.
