TLDR;
This video addresses the critical issue of female disrespect in relationships, emphasizing that it's a gradual process starting with subtle behaviors. It provides a test for women to assess whether their actions might be perceived as disrespectful by men, using the standard of workplace behavior towards a boss. The video explains why disrespect is detrimental to both men and women, asserting that women cannot love a man they do not respect, and that addressing disrespect early is crucial for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship.
- Disrespect is a gradual process that starts with subtle behaviors.
- Women can use a simple test to determine if their behavior is disrespectful by comparing it to how they would treat their boss.
- Disrespect threatens relationships and a woman's ability to love her partner.
Introduction [0:00]
Dr. Orion Taraban introduces the topic of addressing female disrespect, highlighting its importance for both men and women. He encourages viewers to listen carefully, setting the stage for a discussion on how disrespect manifests and its impact on relationships.
The Process of Disrespect [0:18]
Disrespect typically develops gradually, starting with subtle behaviors that are easily dismissed. These small acts of covert disrespect are strong indicators of future, more overt disrespect. Drawing parallels to high school and prison dynamics, the speaker illustrates how bullies test their targets with minor actions to gauge their reaction before escalating. Addressing these early signs of disrespect is crucial to prevent larger problems later on.
Understanding Disrespect in Women [2:21]
While some women may intentionally use disrespectful tactics, many are unaware of how their behavior is perceived by men. This disconnect arises partly because respect is interpreted differently by men and women. The speaker then introduces a test for women to evaluate their behavior.
The "Boss" Test for Disrespect [3:00]
The speaker presents a straightforward test for women to determine if their behavior is disrespectful: ask yourself if you would say or do the same thing to your boss if you wanted to keep your job. Examples include rolling your eyes, being dismissive, complaining, responding sarcastically, nagging, muttering, talking behind their back, teasing, being indifferent, or mocking attempts to maintain order. If the answer is no, the behavior is likely disrespectful. Even in cases where a playful dynamic exists with a boss, such behavior would not be acceptable in front of clients or customers, highlighting an understanding of appropriate conduct.
Addressing the "Man Is Not My Boss" Objection [5:01]
The speaker addresses the common objection that "a man is not the boss of me" by pointing out that while a boss isn't in complete control, they do have legitimate authority within a professional context. Similarly, in a relationship, the person who "builds the frame" or "builds the ship" (often the man) holds a leadership role. Disrespecting a man in ways one wouldn't disrespect a boss communicates that the professional relationship is valued more than the intimate one.
Why Disrespecting Men Is Detrimental to Women [6:59]
A man with self-worth and options will not tolerate disrespect, potentially jeopardizing a fulfilling relationship. More importantly, women cannot love a man they do not respect. While men can love women they don't respect, respect is essential for women to feel love. Disrespect threatens not only the relationship but also the woman's positive feelings and regard for her partner.
Safeguarding the Relationship [8:15]
Men must address covert disrespect early to maintain the long-term health of the relationship and safeguard the woman's positive regard. Allowing disrespect to continue unchecked can lead to increasingly problematic behavior and jeopardize the attraction and loyalty necessary for a sustainable relationship.
