Brief Summary
The video is all about how to attract a girl by speaking to her emotions rather than her mind. The key technique discussed is "listening like a therapist," which involves asking emotional questions and actively listening to the responses. It also covers the importance of creating emotional connections, turning questions into conversations, and being creative in your approach.
- To attract a girl, stir her emotions by asking emotional questions.
- Listen actively and encourage her to express herself.
- Turn emotional questions into emotional conversations.
- Be creative and avoid coming across as robotic.
Introduction: The Key to Owning a Girl's Heart
The speaker shares his journey of understanding seduction and social skills. He used to be in the "someone she doesn't want to meet again" category due to social awkwardness. After learning social skills, he moved to the "friend" category but realised that the key to becoming a boyfriend is stirring a girl's emotions, not just being a friendly face.
The Secret: Stirring Emotions
There are two ways to stir emotions: putting feelings into her or bringing them out. Initially, it's better to bring emotions out. The speaker introduces the technique of "listening like a therapist" by asking emotional questions and listening to the answers. He emphasizes understanding what emotional questions mean rather than just memorizing a list of questions.
What are Emotional Questions?
Emotional questions make a woman express her feelings, like anger, sadness, or passion. For example, instead of a cold, logical conversation about where someone lives, ask an emotional question like, "How can you live in a city like that?" to prompt a longer, more expressive answer. The answer should be long and expressive, encouraging her to pour out her feelings.
The Second Step: Listen Carefully
Listen carefully and try to get her to express herself as much as possible without interruption. At this moment, you are talking to her emotions, to that instinct responsible for love. The emotional question is just a key to unlock something bigger, a key to the door of emotional conversation.
Turning Questions into Conversations
Turn the emotional question into an emotional conversation. For example, if she mentions liking the Metropolitan Museum of Art, ask why and continue the conversation by focusing on emotional things. In a conversation, she should be talking 70% of the time, and you only 30%, especially in the beginning.
Examples of Emotional Questions
The speaker mentions Arthur Aaron's "36 Questions to Fall in Love," designed to increase intimacy. He shares the first 10 questions, such as "Would you like to be famous? In what way?" and "What would constitute a perfect day for you?" The key is to understand the concept behind these questions and turn regular conversations into emotional ones.
Real-Life Example: The MBTI Test
The speaker shares a story about a girl who didn't want to have sex on the first night. He suggested taking the MBTI test and used each question to get her to elaborate and tell stories about herself. They ended up having sex because women feel sexual desire when they start experiencing emotions. Men are triggered visually, but women are triggered emotionally.
Final Thoughts and Lessons
Be creative and don't just robotically ask questions. Implement everything learned in the series. If you only apply this technique, you might end up in the therapy zone with the girl. This technique can also be used with people if you want to create a deep and memorable connection.
