HOW WOMEN GET ADDICTED – Inside Female Nature, Lust & Longing

Brief Summary

Alright, so this video is all about cracking the code of female attraction, but not in the way you might think. It throws out the usual advice of "get rich, get fit" and says it's all about your internal state, not your external achievements. The main idea is that women get "addicted" to men who have high perceived sexual market value, which is based on their internal confidence and self-worth, not just their money or looks.

• Internal state trumps external achievements when it comes to attraction.
• Women are drawn to confidence, authenticity, and self-validation.
• Being present, stoic, and living by your own values are key.

Intro: The Illusion of External Validation

The video starts by painting a picture of a guy who's got it all on paper – good job, nice car, dresses well – but still can't seem to spark real interest from women. Then there's his friend, who doesn't have any of those things but has women falling all over him. The video questions if everything you've been taught about female attraction is wrong. It claims that the secret to making women obsessed with you is not about achievements, but about your internal state. The video warns that the information presented will challenge your beliefs about attraction, success, and self-worth.

The Biggest Lie: Attraction is Not a Checklist

The video straight up says that society has lied to men about how attraction works. You've been told to get in shape, make money, and learn social skills, and then women will automatically fall in love with you. But the truth is, women don't fall in love with your achievements; they fall in love with your internal state. They get addicted to who you are when nobody's watching. The most attractive quality a man can have is not about his bank account or physique, but something more rare and powerful.

Sexual Market Value Discrepancy: It's All About Perception

Here's a concept that's supposed to change how you see attraction: sexual market value discrepancy. Women develop deep attraction when they see a man's sexual market value as higher than their own. But sexual market value isn't about objective things like income or looks; it's about perception, which is controlled by your internal state. The video gives an example of a broke guy at a bar who makes a witty comment and instantly becomes more attractive than a millionaire because he demonstrated higher sexual market value through his internal state.

The Frame of Value System: Above Me or Below Me

Women operate on a "frame of value system" where they categorize and rank men based on their energy signature, not their resume. They're unconsciously asking themselves if the man knows his worth, needs their approval, or is comfortable in his own skin. Within seconds, they've decided if you're "above me" or "below me." If you're above, they start becoming addicted; if you're below, they lose interest, no matter how impressive you are. Trying too hard to impress women puts you in the "below me" category.

Pre-Selection: Subtlety is Key

Pre-selection, the idea that other women desire you, is a powerful trigger for female attraction. But most men misunderstand how it works. It's not about flirting with other women or bragging about your dating success. Real pre-selection is subtle and authentic. It's the energy of a man who has options but isn't desperate. When a woman senses that other women find you attractive, she becomes curious and wonders what they see in you. But you can't fake it; women can sense inauthenticity.

Internal vs. External Value: The Real Deal

Most men spend their lives building external value – money, status, looks – while ignoring their internal state. You can give a man all the external markers of success, but if he's still insecure, he'll remain unattractive. Women are attracted to energy, not assets. They fall in love with how you make them feel, not what you can buy them. Confidence from external achievements is fragile, but confidence from self-acceptance is magnetic.

The Validation Death Spiral: Don't Be a Beggar

Nothing kills attraction faster than seeking validation. If you need her approval to feel good about yourself, you're in the "validation death spiral." Women can sense this neediness immediately. Men who create female addiction are self-validated; they know their worth without needing anyone else to confirm it. This self-validation is attractive because it's so rare.

Presence: Be Here Now

Being fully present in the moment is a rare and powerful quality. Most men are living in the past or future, never truly present with the woman they're talking to. When you can be fully present, truly listening, and comfortable with silence, you create a magnetic field. Women feel seen, heard, and valued. Presence also communicates confidence and self-assurance.

Authenticity: Live Your Own Truth

Most of your goals and desires aren't actually yours; they've been programmed into you by society. The men who create female addiction have broken free from this constructed reality. They live according to their own values, pursue their own interests, and define success on their own terms. This authenticity is magnetic because it's so rare.

Confidence: Self-Acceptance, Not Self-Improvement

Most men think they want external achievements, but what they really want is confidence. But external achievements don't create genuine confidence; they create conditional confidence. Real confidence comes from self-acceptance, from being okay with who you are right now. Trying to build confidence through external achievements actually makes you less confident.

Sex as a Goal: Giving Away Your Power

When sex becomes your primary goal with women, you give them all the power. If your happiness depends on whether a woman sleeps with you, she controls your emotional state. Women can sense this desperation. But when sex isn't your primary focus, you maintain your power, which paradoxically makes her more likely to pursue you sexually.

Saying No: The Power of Rejection

Sometimes the most attractive thing you can do is say no to sex. When you can turn down sexual opportunities, you demonstrate abundance and self-control. This sends powerful messages: you have options, you're not desperate, and you value more than just physical pleasure. Men who create female addiction understand that sometimes rejection is more powerful than acceptance.

Stoicism: The Unshakable Rock

At the heart of male attractiveness is stoicism, the ability to remain calm and unaffected by external circumstances. This means being emotionally stable and grounded. When you can maintain your internal state regardless of how she treats you, you demonstrate strength that women find irresistible. This also allows you to be truly present with her.

Emotional Connection: It's How You Make Her Feel

Men are visual creatures, but women are emotional creatures. They're attracted to how they feel. This is why women can become obsessed with men who aren't particularly handsome. When you understand that women fall in love through their emotions, you stop focusing on how you look and start focusing on how you make them feel.

Groundedness: The Modern Magnet

Grounded men are magnetic because groundedness is so rare in modern society. Most men are anxious and constantly seeking something outside themselves to feel complete. When you're grounded, you become like a magnet. Women are especially attracted to this energy because it makes them feel safe and secure.

Internal Peace: The Ultimate Secret

The ultimate secret to creating female addiction is developing genuine internal peace. This means being completely okay with who you are, where you are, and what you have right now. This doesn't mean you stop improving; it means you improve from a place of self-love. When you achieve this internal peace, you stop seeking validation, become naturally confident, and can give love without needing it returned.

Authentic Connection: Meeting Her in the Moment

Women get addicted to men who can create authentic connection. This isn't about having things in common; it's about being able to meet her in the moment, truly see her, and connect with her essence. This requires presence, empathy, and emotional intelligence. Most men are so focused on technique that they never learn to truly connect.

Masculine and Feminine Energies: Finding the Polarity

The deepest form of attraction occurs when masculine and feminine energies come together in perfect polarity. Masculine energy is about presence, direction, and strength. Feminine energy is about flow, emotion, and intuition. When these energies meet in balance, they create magnetic attraction.

Non-Reactivity: The Power of Emotional Stability

Perhaps the most powerful trait you can develop is non-reactivity. This means maintaining your emotional state regardless of what she says or does. This demonstrates emotional stability, confidence, and an abundance mentality. When you're non-reactive, you force her to work harder to get emotional responses from you, which creates investment on her part.

Implementation: Putting It All Together

To implement these concepts, audit your motivations and ask yourself if you're doing things for yourself or for others' approval. Develop internal validation by practicing self-acceptance and self-compassion. Cultivate presence by being fully present in your interactions. Embrace authenticity by being who you actually are. Develop stoicism by working on your emotional regulation. And create internal peace by doing the inner work necessary to heal your wounds.

Conclusion: A Warning and a Transformation

The video gives a warning not to use this knowledge to manipulate women. The goal is to create genuine connection, not to exploit others. The ultimate secret is to become so comfortable with yourself that you don't need anyone else to complete you. This is about fundamental transformation from the inside out. When you do this work, you become more attractive to yourself and start living a life you're genuinely excited about.